From the P.O.V of my poems/pieces/articles/ words./ if my words could speak.

I love how you put me down on paper. I love how you accentuate my letters. How you keep me flowing. I love how you hold that pen to put me down on paper, make me dance and swirl with the ink. I love how you dedicate me to them, i love how my thoughts have kept you awake for so many nights. I love how you blend , make me dine with other words. I love how crazy i make you. I love how i made you fall in love with them,  i love how you see me in them. I love how you smile when you learn new words and phrases, i love how how well you document me. I love how you see me in a rainy day, when the petrichor smells so good, on sunny days,  when the shadows are so long. I love how you are a walking travesty of my reflection, i love that you find comfort in me. I love that we make such a formidable duo, i love how your fingers caress those letters on the keyboard. I love the home you made of me, a home of books, where i dwell, a reminder of how freely you let your emotions thrive . I love how emotional you get when we have a tête-à-tête , i love how well you’ve put me high up on pedestal, making me feel untouchable, all because i mean so much to you. I love you for trusting and bequeathing me your innermost secrets, i love that you loved me so much and that you always choose to stay.

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A final first .

Final, first exam.


It’s crazy to think that I’m in my final semester of my undergraduate course. Tomorrow at 4pm i will be having my first final paper. I mean, this is something that we ought to have finished way back, but due to strikes and corona, we still here, though in the last lap now. I’m literally zoning in and out as i read, lying in bed, rolling to all corners of it, trying to beat mosquitoes off, eyeing some juice that is on the table cause I’m unable to concentrate as i should. Now that I’m thinking of it, the journey of my life in campus will be one for another day, cause truth be told, I’m gonna miss this place, much as i really want to go out there and start my own dependent life.  So, as i struggle to do a recap for this paper, I’m still kinda exhilarated, waiting to see what the end of this whole process will be like .

Online community engagement and prospects.By Joyce Wachau.


The PR industry is in current transition from traditional means of communication to modernized ways. This is no makeshift change in the field that will dissipate tomorrow, but it is a strong force that PR professionals and agencies need to embrace because it’s imperative to encompass the integration, in order to be able to thrive in a world that is rapidly digitizing, as well as meet the never ending needs of their publics and hence build a community cohesion.


PR professionals are at a high advantage if they are able to engage their publics on various platforms. This gives them an upper hand, since they are able to keep tabs with their audiences. Online community engagement comes with a platter of its vantages, which are proving to be handy in merging the PR world, with online platforms like Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp and many more, which are cost effective, hence more efficient as compared to traditional means, like TV , radio and print.


Online engagement helps interaction of PR organizations, with their audiences. They are able to know what they want and need, thus trust is built on strong foundations, since the publics are well aware that no matter what, they will always have a listening ear whenever they want it.Further more, it helps loyalty that will not waver easily even in terms of a crisis that threatens the organization. The interaction will help the organization make sane decisions with all the variety of views and opinions that are brought up by the audience.


Furthermore, a PR agency will have audiences of all kinds, different backgrounds and beliefs as well. The online interaction acts as the open space where they can openly communicate, especially the minority who may be having views that are less supported by others. If it were in a case of maybe a face to face meeting, they would be afraid to air their issues, due to fear of stigmatization, but with online platforms, they are able to come out strong and confident, hence their views are also put out there, just like everyone else’s.
In order to reach large audiences, then the organization should be in a position of knowing how to combine online and traditional communication methods. A case in point, many organizations do have a website, Twitter page, FB page, Instagram page, emails, SMS, newsletters, annual/quarterly magazines, all serving to reach wider audience,/clients with different needs and as well as at their own convenience. Once they have mastered this technique, then it’s outright guarantee that their information is bound to reach wide audiences . Technological advancements have made it easy to generate traffic on websites and other platforms for the organization, hence many people get to know what is going on there, first hand information.


Many audiences/clients will prefer being engaged online, since the interfaces are easy to navigate, the platforms being relatively cheap, since all they need is Internet connection. It also offers user friendly environment. This means that if PR professionals take a considerable amount of time and resources to update and invest in their websites and online platforms, making them easy to reach out to, then their clients will willingly visit and engage actively.


Moreover, online engagement can as well act as a means to an end, whereby evaluation can be carried out, after monitoring of information that goes in and out between the organization and the stakeholders where it all remains confidential and free of prejudice. The feedback of very crucial, because the organization more often than not, will have to gravitate towards what the community wants, so as to fully satisfy and ensure there’s continued trust and the flame burning bright. Many organizations have had to face hard times, just because they failed to tend to what their audiences want, which can be the beginning of a gradual detrimental decay of a relationship between both of them, with the organization having to suffer the losses and the rain starting to beat them so bad. So in lieu of discarding and not giving a hoot about the audiences feelings, organizations will be in a better place if they incorporate them all.
Shoe on the other foot, professionals handling all these, should be wary of the several disadvantages that always roam in the background. They should device methods of how to handle slow websites that may bring about delay in replying to their audiences, since at times it takes super long to deliver feedback, know how to handle misunderstandings that may arise due to miscommunication as well as information getting to a point that it’s overloading, hence overwhelming the audiences, since there is much information to digest and take in, making it hard for them, to know what to take in or leave out.


When all is a said and done, PR organizations will have an easy time whilst settling into the wave of online engagement, only if they are ready to step up their game, be bold enough to give room for accommodation. Much as the engagement has its downside , they can be counteracted by managing the vantages well. Future prospects should be able to juggle all the platforms offered, hence their diverse and segmented clients will get all the necessary information that they need.

The Origin by Dan Brown.

What to do when you done reading a book but can’t bring yourself to part with the characters?. Winston was it for me. Just an AI program but the level of emotional connection bequeathed to us from it by Dan Brown,is beyond description. The thought of Winston having to delete himself after Edmond passes,is hard to deal with. The sentimentality of it all is so heartbreaking I must profess. That partying shot,that last conversation between Winston and Langdon,would be damned to think Langdon did not shed tears like I did.


Having read the Origin by Dan Brown,first things first,I just love his books. Having come to the end of this particular book,I would love to share what I actually learnt.
Love knows no boundaries. When we come to know of how the King of Spain was lovers with Bishop Antonio Valdespino,it came as a shock to me. Not because people of such different ranks would have anything of the sought going on,but because I had not seen that plot twist. Normally and pragmatically, this type of relationship usually sparks flares of hatred,where there’s condemnation,pointing of fingers,people being the first to cast stones even when they are not righteous themselves. Yet these two chose to love each other platonically, from a distance,since so much was at stake. But regardless, when the King of Spain dies,Bishop Antonio dies of distress,hours after the love of his life passes on.


Some wars like I always say,can’t be won. Religion is one of them. Everyone has a different vantage point in regard to it. We can agree to agree that respecting another person’s view is how to go about it.
Let us not be close minded. Learn to question. Thing is,I’ve been brought up in a Catholic home,been a staunch Catholic like all my life. Need anyone to serve at the alter? I would be there. Need a person to read the bible on Sunday? Look no further,you got me. Want someone to stand in whilst the catechism teacher wasn’t around? I definitely was that kid. Might have been the young age,where what you are told is exactly how it should be. Things like,you should go to church every Sunday, cause that is what the bible requires of you. Do not curse,you will for sure go to hell and burn there. If you asked me back then,I was damn sure I was going to heaven! Cause I used to do almost everything the church said was right. I mean,I still hold on tightly to my faith and I’m not ashamed for we all need something to lean on.


But when I started reading books deeply, back then of course it was just fairy tale story books,books teaching you how to be a good kid,books about Cinderella and her knight in shining armor and all that. Wasn’t all that deep enough to surface those heavy questions. Not deep enough to trigger thoughts beyond living a happy ever after. But ever since I graduated from that and started reading books with much more deeper depth, analyzing and understanding,getting to know what other people think,trust me I’ve never looked back.
I got to appreciate how other people think,bursting that bubble of living in a cocoon where I thought whatever information you are given is just that. I have come to appreciate the diversified ways people think. To some you gravitate toward, to some you just smile and let it be. It’s amazing to see how people think out of the box,prompting you to think bigger,see thee bigger picture and all that. I have been able to see other people’s point of views,then strategically come up with a constructive criticism and try join the dots. It feels good being in a position where you get to learn something new that you would have never thought about and it leaves you like, wow! I would have never thought about that in a million years!
So,whatever I was trying to drive home,is that,let us learn to question so that we can expand our thinking horizons.

One salon, a cocktail of ladies and a new dawn with a mutual end game.


Howdy my people.
It’s been a while, hasn’t it?


So, today I want us to discuss and share our thoughts about something.
I had recently gone to the salon. When they said that some of the places where you are going to get the hottest rumors, then make the first in your list as the salon,cause they were definitely right. So, on Saturday I was going to redo my hair, after quite some time. Now, the rate at which conversations and stories change while here is pathetically, amusingly malleable. One minute we were talking of how my hair, has really improved, to how right and wrong it will be to reopen schools, and to our topic of the day, “Just how baby showers, gender reveals, bridal showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties are wrong”


Matter of fact, what instigated this topic, is the small black radio that hang on a wooden plank. It was a Kikuyu radio station that had been tuned on and when they started playing some secular songs, one the hairdressers had been like” wait, what’s happening?. Why are they playing those type of songs, during that time of the show? ” mind you it was a song by Diamond Platnumz, a renown Bongo musician. To be clear, we were 4 of us. 2 hairdressers and some customer, i mean I was the second customer. That makes us 4, right? Yea of course it does.


So one of the two friseurs went on to lament that if she ever attended a wedding and they start playing such secular songs, she would matter of fact, get up and walk away. And in my mind I was like, “the hell! it could be the devil in the rain, but what are you talking about? This is a wedding! Meaning people are here to have fun, dance, eat, mingle and all that. So why won’t they indulge themselves in some good music?


Don’t think I’m getting ahead of myself, but I’m a believer and all that, but I also spectate for that other side of the spectrum. If it’s church time? Well and good, let’s all say the hail Mary, sit on that pew and listen to the priest deliver his sermon, let’s find devotion at the pulpit and all that. If it gets to having some good time? Then why hold back? Sing, dance and indulge!. Balance is very imperative, knowing what to do, when to do it and at what time. Oh, I forgot to add with who too.
We all laughed, trying to imagine how a wedding reception would look like, without people dancing to some modern secular songs. Wait, or is it possible? Someone enlighten me. I have been to very few weddings and maybe I don’t know much.


What took me by surprise was when she smoothly slid from that topic, to cynically condemning the act of people holding baby showers. “You young people have no idea that those people who attend these parties might be having bad intentions and before you know it, they’ve brought you gifts that have undergone demonic sacrifices and when you eventually give birth to a baby, he or she is deformed or having other weird problems. ” I’m literally mesmerized, so I will pretend I’m sipping some cold water, which I’m not. I understand her insecurities. I really do. I tried putting myself in her shoes, to see where she was going and coming from, with her perspectives. From there, I deduced that she is a staunch traditionalist, which is good. I mean, I’m superstitious from time to time, which stems from all the verbal traditional learning that we all go through. You do have some traditional beliefs you hold on to, right?
She went on explaining how back then, there never used to be all these “stuff”. Let me take you carefully through what she shared with us.


Back then, our mothers ad grandmothers, did not engage in baby showers, gender reveals and any other celebrations young people are holding. They never used to celebrate before the child was born, since it was a sign of bad luck, a taboo to be precise. Some tribes never even used to buy clothes for the unborn child saying it might jinx the unborn baby.
The mother to the expectant woman, her relatives and mother-in-law would alternate on coming to visit, and take care of this pregnant woman. They would bring her traditional foods that would give her more energy and all that. The celebration would be carried out once the baby was born, and not before, like you all are doing it.


Once she was done, that other customer interjected. “Things have changed. Trust me these days it’s hard to find a mother-in-law who is all out to take care of you. Your mum? Yes, but it’s hard for the mother-in-law to do it for you. When will she ever get that time to go to the farm and take care of her goats and cows? She won’t abandon her work, to come help you out. “


I actually gave her a nod of tacit acquiescence for her opinion , because she had some good point. These days you get pregnant, most of your relatives are not that much bothered or invested in taking care of you. They might visit you twice. During your pregnancy period and after you’ve brought the baby to the world. Funny thing, those who are there for you, are your friends.
I went on and jumped to how bachelor and bachelorette parties are also done these days.


“You people never cease to amaze me. What goes on in those parties.? ” the hairdresser asked and I exchanged looks, winked at that customer and laughed so hard. But we made the whole story short for her. “The girl comes together with her friends and do all the crazy things she had never done, and will never do once she is married. She takes that moment to have a time of her life, before she gets to say her vows and tie the knot, the same applies to the guy” once I told her that, she just laughed saying we are a doomed generation.


Thing is, I’ve been to several baby showers and it’s just one of those moments that mark the culmination of the mum to be, as you gather up as her friends, hold a party for her, eat, drink, dance, gift her and last but not least, a baby shower is never what it should be, without that girl talk. I don’t want to burst the bubble on what we talk about, cause that’s a girl thing, but trust you me, the whole thing is just perfect and very heart warming.


So yes, I support those baby showers. Not everyone might be able to hold them. And if it comes to that point, it’s okay sweetheart, no pressure. The end game is that one delivers that baby safely. For those who have managed to have one, they can attest that it’s pure bliss.

We are now facing a new dawn that appears catasrophic due to diversified opinions.
So when all is said and done guys, do you think that all the issues revolving baby showers, gender reveal parties, bachelor and bachelorette parties, are customs that we’ve brought upon ourselves that seem to differ from what those before us have deemed as inappropriate?. Because I think it’s a gap that is being bridged slowly, by a new generation which is “us”. Adaptation into what I call moving with time, adaptations that are aiming at re-coloring at what is seen as traditional, making it fit for what is easily accessible to us. The end game is one and we can all agree on it, looking forward to the safe delivery of the baby. That should be our bigger picture, right?

Lend me you your thoughts on the issue and I will highly appreciate. Thank you.


I love you guys for the continued support and engagements.

The wife in me must have died a long time ago.


Guys!!! I don’t know whether to be pissed or disappointed. Now, let’s have an open discussion on this piece, because I really want to know what your take/perspectives on the issues I will be addressing here today are.


Just the other day, my aunt had visitors over. I wouldn’t call them visitors per say, more like some very close family friends. They were five of them. The mother and her kids, who are actually 3 girls and 1 guy, all grownups, then there was my aunt and uncle. Well I was also there, but I didn’t want to interfere, so I just made myself busy in the kitchen. I wasn’t that much interested in whatever shenanigans they engaged in, but something did catch my attention. Can’t tell if it was the oestrogen that seemed to have deluded them or what exactly was going on. I’m unable to place a finger on it.


“Don’t ever allow yourself to carry your wife’s hand bag, no matter the case. You are a man” came by aunt who was highly backed up by the mother to this guy.
“Yes, the voice makes a man, don’t ever agree to be downplayed by a woman. Prove you are the man in the relationship ” my uncle chipped in.


It’s only by grace I didn’t break the glass I was washing, cause it hit the tap with such force, as shock hit my system so hard. I literally dried my hands on the apron I had on, and leaned by the sink to listen to what I was referring to *self centered unsolicited opinions that are so yesterday? *


Funny thing, the guy seemed to concur with what he was being told and I laughed at the whole thing, trying to console myself that he was doing it just to seem like the good guy who listens to his elders. I mean, I would have prolly done the same, but as we say, vitu kwa ground ni different.


“If a woman ever tells you to look after the milk so that it doesn’t boil and pour over, so that she tends to something else, don’t ever do it! Tell her to switch off the cooker and come boil her milk later! ” my aunt continued interjecting.


Well at this point, I pulled out my nonexisting chair, poured myself some imaginary coffee and buckled up to get more of this toxic masculinity and oestrogen pumped advice, because it was getting annoyingly spicy.
When did we get here?. What happened to partnership? Where the hell did for better for worse dissipate to?. So these is what marriage is constituting of?. Because if this is the case, then ladies and gentlemen, the wife in me died ages ago.


I have lost count of how many times I’ve been told that eating noodles, what we commonly refer to as indomie, is “so un-wife like” that a lady should know how to cook, get in the kitchen and learn how to whip up something for her husband. I mean, it doesn’t sound wrong to some point. I have experienced what it feels like to be in the kitchen past midnight preparing meals with your significant other and let me tell you! it’s heavenly. Thing is, I’m not so much into cooking, I’ve picked up a few skills here and there. I did home science back in my high school days, but I’ve never loved the whole idea of being in the kitchen alone. I’ve burned mittens, burned food and somebody’s son was really amused by my clumsiness but never looked down on me for it. And it made me feel so good. Made me feel great, like I just wanna go out of my way learn how to do all types of food. But when some random person keeps on ranting on what a lady ought to do to make her a wife material? Naaaa, please don’t come at me with that! so, not knowing how to cook automatically disqualifies you from a being a wife?

Who even came up with metrics of “wife material? ” because it seems he or she must have had some loose screw up there.
When my aunt walked in on me cooking indomie, it was just me and her in the house and she went all out like, ” Joyce you are not serious. Is it that you are just lazy to cook something? There’s everything in this house to cook. Know you are the generation that is now almost getting to that marriage stage, and you need to teach yourself how to cook. You think your husband will be happy when you can’t cook a mere decent meal? you ought to be serious”


Now I don’t know if it was the condescending tone she used, or whatever it was, I don’t really care. But first of all! I had eaten some heavy late lunch, so all I needed was a light meal, and indomie seemed like the perfect meal. Second, who says I want to get married? For all I know, I might not want to get saddled up with someone*laughs sarcastically * Third, why do you talk of me getting married and that I don’t know all the claimed wifely duties, yet you would be on the frontline of condemning me if you were to know I have a boyfriend? And make me the talk of the entire family and every Tom dick and harry? Going bizarre of how I should wait to finish my studies? It beats logic for me. Like just pick one side and stick to it. All these stuff of you being a *wifely duties connoisseur *needs to stop ! And that applies to anyone with that mindset!!


It’s not the first time I’ve also been called out for loving to sleep. My love for sleep remains undisputed and that is something I have come to terms with. I may love sleeping, but shoe on the other foot, I also know when I’m supposed to wake up early. I know how to balance, feel me? “a lady is supposed to wake up early, otherwise, when you get married, your husband will send you back to your parents house” they said.


Jesus Christ! Who says these and many more menagerie stuff are the litmus paper for deciding if a lady is wife material/or not?
Back to that issue up there on a guy carrying a handbag for his girl, what is so wrong about that?. Guys would you carry that handbag for her? If not, what’s your reason?. Ladies, do you like it when your guy helps you carry your bag?. Because, I think it’s so sweet when he does it. *Like come here baby, lemmi give you a kiss, cause you just so sweet! “


So I figured out, if some of these things are what make the cut off, for being a wife, then I would be way below average, rather the wife in me must have died long time ago yet no matter the situation, I would choose a me, if I were a guy, so, there’s nothing much to waste or worry about. .
Anyway, so what’s your take on all these rules that the society is day to day imposing on the characters that one should have, for them to qualify and be viable for marriage? share with me those crazy things and moments, because I really want to know!
Good day ahead to you all.
Nothing but love from me to you ❤❤

World Humanitarian Day.

211 million. Think about it. What would you do if in terms of money this was handed to you?. Hand to God, I bet you would have a myriad of things to do with it, true or true?. Now picture this, as the same figure of people suffering around the world. The UN gives this number as the approximate number of people hit with all types of disasters. What would you do with that number of people suffering, dying and all that,?. Nothing much, right?. You can only do so much, that the only thing would be prayers for them. There is this gap between people all over the world and the government. The government might not be able to reach out to everyone at a go, and this where humanitarians step in to bridge and make a change, as small as a ripple in the ocean. I call them angels from above. I mean, who would risk their own lives just to go out into some interior war savaged area, just to help people build back their lives, provide medication, ensure they have nutritious food?

Humanitarians are day in day out making sure that the helpless people get the help they can get. For this we dedicate an entire day to appreciate their efforts, and that’s why we have the World Humanitarian Day. On this particular day, we get to acknowledge the deeds that they undertake. Public awareness is the best arsenal that is used to let the whole world know and sensitize about the need and appreciation of the humanitarian personnel. By doing so, we are able to embrace and acknowledge the activities they indulge in, that save lives now and then. I am in full support for this day, because the magnitude of somebody selflessly putting themselves at risk to help others, unaware of what might happen while at it, can not be under estimated. That is a true hero.

World Humanitarian Day was established by the General Assembly of the UN in December 2008 and was first observed in August 2009. The date of August 19 is the anniversary date of the 2003 Canal Hotel bombing in Baghdad where twenty-two people lost their lives including, the UN’s High Commissioner for Human Rights and the Special Representative of the secretary-general to Iraq, Sergio Vieira de Mello.
No one anticipates a disaster, no one longs for one to happen. So when that drought, rise in gender violence, tribal clashes, floods, hurricanes et cetera manifest themselves, the need for intervention is imperative in order to gauge them, before they get out of hand. The more they are, the more the need for humanitarians to come in. It is good to underline and highlight the fact that this is not possible without the global effort of individuals from all corners and all walks of life. Humanitarian work is solely based and reliant on donations, sponsorships, partnerships and team effort. With such combined effort, then people affected by a crisis get to live another day, they get to have hope for another day, all because someone took it upon themselves to shed light and priority on them. Putting aside differences brought about by religion, race, gender and background, the biggest drive for all these is the need to arrive at the human goals that connect us all, lacing it with some respect, love and integrity, minus discrimination for it all to balance.
Sustainable change is the means to an end that stringently envelopes the humanitarian world. Humanitarians want to reach out and help others, ensuring at the the end of it all, the victims will be having something they can rely and count on, once everything is said and done.

So, on this day, August 19,we appreciate humanitarians for the endless ways they come up with in order to help control and do away with crisis that threatens human development. The fact that they are able to find the missing puzzle and make it whole once again, it brings such a huge impact in the lives of others, who are in no position to help themselves. The ripple effect of the humanitarians is felt far and wide.
When we say charity begins at home, then it means that you can also get to be a humanitarian and in your own small way, change the life of those orphan kids in the orphanage by donating food, clothes and spending time with them, building that small house for an elderly person whose house was slanting precariously and on the verge of falling off , feeding that street kid, helping that girl who was to be married off to some old man, cleaning your neighbourhood, human rights campaign, and so on. So if at one point or another you have engaged in such activities, then you deserve a round of applause, because that right there, was some humanitarian work!