Spread a little bit too thin, but managing.

In a spun of 2 weeks i have managed to clumsily hit my head against the wall, and against the metal pole of the bed. Stupid huh?.

So i have been having this on and off migraines even when I’m sleep at times. I can literally feel my head throbbing. I mean,  for somebody who loves to sleep,  it is quite a stretch for me. Funny thing, i hear a lot when I’m sleeping , i pick up sounds and movements, my brain is usually very alert. Wait, is that normal? Please tell me it’s normal.*crossing fingers”


So combining  the migraines, and my brain being that alert picking up on going activities, reading for my exams makes me so frustrated that I have literally detached myself from everyone. First cause I love it that way, second cause i don’t want to unleash my frustrations on anyone. So I’m just playing safe. When i called my mum today, i mentioned it to her and she made a light joke of how i used to fall off from bed when i was young. Every time she mentions it, I’m always like “whaaaaaaat?”You know, like I’m hearing it for the very first time. Cause how did that happen? How now?. It is hilarious though. It made me smile.

Touched my soul like Sunday.

Just the other night, i was sleeping, then i remembered i had not prayed. And i laughed while doing the praying. I just assumed God was there, and that i was just making jokes with him, throwing in some small talk here and there. I did not drift amidst the prayers like i do sometimes. I smiled. Smiled because better days are coming, smiled because it just felt great.

From the P.O.V of my poems/pieces/articles/ words./ if my words could speak.

I love how you put me down on paper. I love how you accentuate my letters. How you keep me flowing. I love how you hold that pen to put me down on paper, make me dance and swirl with the ink. I love how you dedicate me to them, i love how my thoughts have kept you awake for so many nights. I love how you blend , make me dine with other words. I love how crazy i make you. I love how i made you fall in love with them,  i love how you see me in them. I love how you smile when you learn new words and phrases, i love how how well you document me. I love how you see me in a rainy day, when the petrichor smells so good, on sunny days,  when the shadows are so long. I love how you are a walking travesty of my reflection, i love that you find comfort in me. I love that we make such a formidable duo, i love how your fingers caress those letters on the keyboard. I love the home you made of me, a home of books, where i dwell, a reminder of how freely you let your emotions thrive . I love how emotional you get when we have a tête-à-tête , i love how well you’ve put me high up on pedestal, making me feel untouchable, all because i mean so much to you. I love you for trusting and bequeathing me your innermost secrets, i love that you loved me so much and that you always choose to stay.

A final first .

Final, first exam.


It’s crazy to think that I’m in my final semester of my undergraduate course. Tomorrow at 4pm i will be having my first final paper. I mean, this is something that we ought to have finished way back, but due to strikes and corona, we still here, though in the last lap now. I’m literally zoning in and out as i read, lying in bed, rolling to all corners of it, trying to beat mosquitoes off, eyeing some juice that is on the table cause I’m unable to concentrate as i should. Now that I’m thinking of it, the journey of my life in campus will be one for another day, cause truth be told, I’m gonna miss this place, much as i really want to go out there and start my own dependent life.  So, as i struggle to do a recap for this paper, I’m still kinda exhilarated, waiting to see what the end of this whole process will be like .

Online community engagement and prospects.By Joyce Wachau.


The PR industry is in current transition from traditional means of communication to modernized ways. This is no makeshift change in the field that will dissipate tomorrow, but it is a strong force that PR professionals and agencies need to embrace because it’s imperative to encompass the integration, in order to be able to thrive in a world that is rapidly digitizing, as well as meet the never ending needs of their publics and hence build a community cohesion.


PR professionals are at a high advantage if they are able to engage their publics on various platforms. This gives them an upper hand, since they are able to keep tabs with their audiences. Online community engagement comes with a platter of its vantages, which are proving to be handy in merging the PR world, with online platforms like Facebook, Twitter, WhatsApp and many more, which are cost effective, hence more efficient as compared to traditional means, like TV , radio and print.


Online engagement helps interaction of PR organizations, with their audiences. They are able to know what they want and need, thus trust is built on strong foundations, since the publics are well aware that no matter what, they will always have a listening ear whenever they want it.Further more, it helps loyalty that will not waver easily even in terms of a crisis that threatens the organization. The interaction will help the organization make sane decisions with all the variety of views and opinions that are brought up by the audience.


Furthermore, a PR agency will have audiences of all kinds, different backgrounds and beliefs as well. The online interaction acts as the open space where they can openly communicate, especially the minority who may be having views that are less supported by others. If it were in a case of maybe a face to face meeting, they would be afraid to air their issues, due to fear of stigmatization, but with online platforms, they are able to come out strong and confident, hence their views are also put out there, just like everyone else’s.
In order to reach large audiences, then the organization should be in a position of knowing how to combine online and traditional communication methods. A case in point, many organizations do have a website, Twitter page, FB page, Instagram page, emails, SMS, newsletters, annual/quarterly magazines, all serving to reach wider audience,/clients with different needs and as well as at their own convenience. Once they have mastered this technique, then it’s outright guarantee that their information is bound to reach wide audiences . Technological advancements have made it easy to generate traffic on websites and other platforms for the organization, hence many people get to know what is going on there, first hand information.


Many audiences/clients will prefer being engaged online, since the interfaces are easy to navigate, the platforms being relatively cheap, since all they need is Internet connection. It also offers user friendly environment. This means that if PR professionals take a considerable amount of time and resources to update and invest in their websites and online platforms, making them easy to reach out to, then their clients will willingly visit and engage actively.


Moreover, online engagement can as well act as a means to an end, whereby evaluation can be carried out, after monitoring of information that goes in and out between the organization and the stakeholders where it all remains confidential and free of prejudice. The feedback of very crucial, because the organization more often than not, will have to gravitate towards what the community wants, so as to fully satisfy and ensure there’s continued trust and the flame burning bright. Many organizations have had to face hard times, just because they failed to tend to what their audiences want, which can be the beginning of a gradual detrimental decay of a relationship between both of them, with the organization having to suffer the losses and the rain starting to beat them so bad. So in lieu of discarding and not giving a hoot about the audiences feelings, organizations will be in a better place if they incorporate them all.
Shoe on the other foot, professionals handling all these, should be wary of the several disadvantages that always roam in the background. They should device methods of how to handle slow websites that may bring about delay in replying to their audiences, since at times it takes super long to deliver feedback, know how to handle misunderstandings that may arise due to miscommunication as well as information getting to a point that it’s overloading, hence overwhelming the audiences, since there is much information to digest and take in, making it hard for them, to know what to take in or leave out.


When all is a said and done, PR organizations will have an easy time whilst settling into the wave of online engagement, only if they are ready to step up their game, be bold enough to give room for accommodation. Much as the engagement has its downside , they can be counteracted by managing the vantages well. Future prospects should be able to juggle all the platforms offered, hence their diverse and segmented clients will get all the necessary information that they need.

The Origin by Dan Brown.

What to do when you done reading a book but can’t bring yourself to part with the characters?. Winston was it for me. Just an AI program but the level of emotional connection bequeathed to us from it by Dan Brown,is beyond description. The thought of Winston having to delete himself after Edmond passes,is hard to deal with. The sentimentality of it all is so heartbreaking I must profess. That partying shot,that last conversation between Winston and Langdon,would be damned to think Langdon did not shed tears like I did.


Having read the Origin by Dan Brown,first things first,I just love his books. Having come to the end of this particular book,I would love to share what I actually learnt.
Love knows no boundaries. When we come to know of how the King of Spain was lovers with Bishop Antonio Valdespino,it came as a shock to me. Not because people of such different ranks would have anything of the sought going on,but because I had not seen that plot twist. Normally and pragmatically, this type of relationship usually sparks flares of hatred,where there’s condemnation,pointing of fingers,people being the first to cast stones even when they are not righteous themselves. Yet these two chose to love each other platonically, from a distance,since so much was at stake. But regardless, when the King of Spain dies,Bishop Antonio dies of distress,hours after the love of his life passes on.


Some wars like I always say,can’t be won. Religion is one of them. Everyone has a different vantage point in regard to it. We can agree to agree that respecting another person’s view is how to go about it.
Let us not be close minded. Learn to question. Thing is,I’ve been brought up in a Catholic home,been a staunch Catholic like all my life. Need anyone to serve at the alter? I would be there. Need a person to read the bible on Sunday? Look no further,you got me. Want someone to stand in whilst the catechism teacher wasn’t around? I definitely was that kid. Might have been the young age,where what you are told is exactly how it should be. Things like,you should go to church every Sunday, cause that is what the bible requires of you. Do not curse,you will for sure go to hell and burn there. If you asked me back then,I was damn sure I was going to heaven! Cause I used to do almost everything the church said was right. I mean,I still hold on tightly to my faith and I’m not ashamed for we all need something to lean on.


But when I started reading books deeply, back then of course it was just fairy tale story books,books teaching you how to be a good kid,books about Cinderella and her knight in shining armor and all that. Wasn’t all that deep enough to surface those heavy questions. Not deep enough to trigger thoughts beyond living a happy ever after. But ever since I graduated from that and started reading books with much more deeper depth, analyzing and understanding,getting to know what other people think,trust me I’ve never looked back.
I got to appreciate how other people think,bursting that bubble of living in a cocoon where I thought whatever information you are given is just that. I have come to appreciate the diversified ways people think. To some you gravitate toward, to some you just smile and let it be. It’s amazing to see how people think out of the box,prompting you to think bigger,see thee bigger picture and all that. I have been able to see other people’s point of views,then strategically come up with a constructive criticism and try join the dots. It feels good being in a position where you get to learn something new that you would have never thought about and it leaves you like, wow! I would have never thought about that in a million years!
So,whatever I was trying to drive home,is that,let us learn to question so that we can expand our thinking horizons.

One salon, a cocktail of ladies and a new dawn with a mutual end game.


Howdy my people.
It’s been a while, hasn’t it?


So, today I want us to discuss and share our thoughts about something.
I had recently gone to the salon. When they said that some of the places where you are going to get the hottest rumors, then make the first in your list as the salon,cause they were definitely right. So, on Saturday I was going to redo my hair, after quite some time. Now, the rate at which conversations and stories change while here is pathetically, amusingly malleable. One minute we were talking of how my hair, has really improved, to how right and wrong it will be to reopen schools, and to our topic of the day, “Just how baby showers, gender reveals, bridal showers and bachelor/bachelorette parties are wrong”


Matter of fact, what instigated this topic, is the small black radio that hang on a wooden plank. It was a Kikuyu radio station that had been tuned on and when they started playing some secular songs, one the hairdressers had been like” wait, what’s happening?. Why are they playing those type of songs, during that time of the show? ” mind you it was a song by Diamond Platnumz, a renown Bongo musician. To be clear, we were 4 of us. 2 hairdressers and some customer, i mean I was the second customer. That makes us 4, right? Yea of course it does.


So one of the two friseurs went on to lament that if she ever attended a wedding and they start playing such secular songs, she would matter of fact, get up and walk away. And in my mind I was like, “the hell! it could be the devil in the rain, but what are you talking about? This is a wedding! Meaning people are here to have fun, dance, eat, mingle and all that. So why won’t they indulge themselves in some good music?


Don’t think I’m getting ahead of myself, but I’m a believer and all that, but I also spectate for that other side of the spectrum. If it’s church time? Well and good, let’s all say the hail Mary, sit on that pew and listen to the priest deliver his sermon, let’s find devotion at the pulpit and all that. If it gets to having some good time? Then why hold back? Sing, dance and indulge!. Balance is very imperative, knowing what to do, when to do it and at what time. Oh, I forgot to add with who too.
We all laughed, trying to imagine how a wedding reception would look like, without people dancing to some modern secular songs. Wait, or is it possible? Someone enlighten me. I have been to very few weddings and maybe I don’t know much.


What took me by surprise was when she smoothly slid from that topic, to cynically condemning the act of people holding baby showers. “You young people have no idea that those people who attend these parties might be having bad intentions and before you know it, they’ve brought you gifts that have undergone demonic sacrifices and when you eventually give birth to a baby, he or she is deformed or having other weird problems. ” I’m literally mesmerized, so I will pretend I’m sipping some cold water, which I’m not. I understand her insecurities. I really do. I tried putting myself in her shoes, to see where she was going and coming from, with her perspectives. From there, I deduced that she is a staunch traditionalist, which is good. I mean, I’m superstitious from time to time, which stems from all the verbal traditional learning that we all go through. You do have some traditional beliefs you hold on to, right?
She went on explaining how back then, there never used to be all these “stuff”. Let me take you carefully through what she shared with us.


Back then, our mothers ad grandmothers, did not engage in baby showers, gender reveals and any other celebrations young people are holding. They never used to celebrate before the child was born, since it was a sign of bad luck, a taboo to be precise. Some tribes never even used to buy clothes for the unborn child saying it might jinx the unborn baby.
The mother to the expectant woman, her relatives and mother-in-law would alternate on coming to visit, and take care of this pregnant woman. They would bring her traditional foods that would give her more energy and all that. The celebration would be carried out once the baby was born, and not before, like you all are doing it.


Once she was done, that other customer interjected. “Things have changed. Trust me these days it’s hard to find a mother-in-law who is all out to take care of you. Your mum? Yes, but it’s hard for the mother-in-law to do it for you. When will she ever get that time to go to the farm and take care of her goats and cows? She won’t abandon her work, to come help you out. “


I actually gave her a nod of tacit acquiescence for her opinion , because she had some good point. These days you get pregnant, most of your relatives are not that much bothered or invested in taking care of you. They might visit you twice. During your pregnancy period and after you’ve brought the baby to the world. Funny thing, those who are there for you, are your friends.
I went on and jumped to how bachelor and bachelorette parties are also done these days.


“You people never cease to amaze me. What goes on in those parties.? ” the hairdresser asked and I exchanged looks, winked at that customer and laughed so hard. But we made the whole story short for her. “The girl comes together with her friends and do all the crazy things she had never done, and will never do once she is married. She takes that moment to have a time of her life, before she gets to say her vows and tie the knot, the same applies to the guy” once I told her that, she just laughed saying we are a doomed generation.


Thing is, I’ve been to several baby showers and it’s just one of those moments that mark the culmination of the mum to be, as you gather up as her friends, hold a party for her, eat, drink, dance, gift her and last but not least, a baby shower is never what it should be, without that girl talk. I don’t want to burst the bubble on what we talk about, cause that’s a girl thing, but trust you me, the whole thing is just perfect and very heart warming.


So yes, I support those baby showers. Not everyone might be able to hold them. And if it comes to that point, it’s okay sweetheart, no pressure. The end game is that one delivers that baby safely. For those who have managed to have one, they can attest that it’s pure bliss.

We are now facing a new dawn that appears catasrophic due to diversified opinions.
So when all is said and done guys, do you think that all the issues revolving baby showers, gender reveal parties, bachelor and bachelorette parties, are customs that we’ve brought upon ourselves that seem to differ from what those before us have deemed as inappropriate?. Because I think it’s a gap that is being bridged slowly, by a new generation which is “us”. Adaptation into what I call moving with time, adaptations that are aiming at re-coloring at what is seen as traditional, making it fit for what is easily accessible to us. The end game is one and we can all agree on it, looking forward to the safe delivery of the baby. That should be our bigger picture, right?

Lend me you your thoughts on the issue and I will highly appreciate. Thank you.


I love you guys for the continued support and engagements.